1. I thought I would update you on the latest reagarding my previous blog about using more positive focus and less complaining (essentially, this is what we were talking about).

    I've been working wiht Logan for really just a short time in the manner I last blogged about.  At least in a really focused way.  And, I want to report that it really does work wonders!  People who haven't seen him for even a short time, comment on how much better he is getting about coming, keeping his feet on the ground when saying hi.  He also looks to me much more.  For instance, just this morning we were walking out of the yard of the dogs we care for during the days while their humans are at work.  Down the street, another of our neighbors (one who both Amira and Logan dearly love and usually can't wait to get to to say hello), came walking with his 2 dogs.  This would usually institute a headlong rush to our neighbor.  Instead, Amira casually walked toward him and Logan would run (slowly for him) for a short distance then circle around to come back to me.  He continued to do this until I told him yes, go ahead and say hello.  Then he ran (again much slower than usual) to the man. 

    I can speak softly, sometimes even whispering, and get responses that I love!  I think this is definitely worth trying.

    Love,

    Joy

  2. I thought I would update you on the latest reagarding my previous blog about using more positive focus and less complaining (essentially, this is what we were talking about).

    I've been working wiht Logan for really just a short time in the manner I last blogged about.  At least in a really focused way.  And, I want to report that it really does work wonders!  People who haven't seen him for even a short time, comment on how much better he is getting about coming, keeping his feet on the ground when saying hi.  He also looks to me much more.  For instance, just this morning we were walking out of the yard of the dogs we care for during the days while their humans are at work.  Down the street, another of our neighbors (one who both Amira and Logan dearly love and usually can't wait to get to to say hello), came walking with his 2 dogs.  This would usually institute a headlong rush to our neighbor.  Instead, Amira casually walked toward him and Logan would run (slowly for him) for a short distance then circle around to come back to me.  He continued to do this until I told him yes, go ahead and say hello.  Then he ran (again much slower than usual) to the man. 

    I can speak softly, sometimes even whispering, and get responses that I love!  I think this is definitely worth trying.

    Love,

    Joy

  3. Do you find that there are things you ask and ask and ask your dog, cat, horse, or anything else to do or not to do and they just keep up with the same behaviors?  Have you tried "everything" and still can't seem to make much of a difference?  This describes a few things Logan and I have been going through - namely, coming when I call him, keeping his feet on the ground when saying hello to anyone and staying around home (we have an open yard).  He is usually very good about all of these things - when it is his choosing.  And, it seems like the times I most want him to do any of the above, is the very time he chooses to do something else.  Well, I, too, thought I tried everything - except any of the "beating" things.  I have, in fact, even bitten his nose harder than I really wanted to (something I was told would work), used all the "standard" techniques and those of people like Ceasar Millan (except the rolling - which I think is just too bad manners to even think about with most dogs), putting him on a line, you name it, if it is humane, I probably have tried it.  We have had conversation after conversation about these things.  I have even threatened to put up a fence and he would have to stay in it like all the other dogs in our neighborhood.  (And, I should mention that we live rurally where each house is on 5 acres and the street running in front of my house is only travelled by those few (25 houses) people who live on this loop.  So there is not any danger even in an exaggerated sense of things.)

    So, last night I was literally in tears about how to get him to come when I really "need" him to.  During my tears I kept saying that I really want to know what to do to get into better harmony with him.  I know there is a solution that feels good to me because what we have been doing feels crummy to me so I know there must be one that feels good and I need to be shown exactly what that is.  This went on for about 5 minutes when I suddenly found myself thinking about praising the things I love and ignoring the things I don't want.  Now I know this is a very solid spiritual practice and I use it all the time - for other things.  So I was amazed that I hadn't thought of using it in relationship to the 3 things I would like Logan to pay more attention to.  Right then and there I started talking to him about all the things I love about how and who he is and all the things in our relationship I love.  I talked and talked to him and Amira about everything I could think of about what I love about our relationships.  I know that the Spiritual Law of the Law of Attraction is the number 1 law in the Universe.  The Law of Attraction says that which is like unto itself is drawn - which means what you focus on is what you get more of.  My big DAH! moment!  So, I no longer feel frustrated or like crying.  I feel energized and know that as long as I can maintain this focus in our relationship that sooner or later (based on how well I maintain it), we will come into the harmony I am seeking. 

    I know this can be the hardest thing to do when something is so not OK and so in your face!  Trust me!  It took me (who is supposed to already know this - and do) almost 2 years to put these particular pieces together.  However, now that I do have the pieces, I know the harmony has to come.

    If you are having a similar "battle" going on with your partners, you might just want to try this approach.  It may be hard.  And, I know you can do it!  By the way, this also works with everyone and every situation in your life.

    Love,

    Joy

  4. There is a lot of talk, and a good amount of fear or even panic regarding the things happening in Japan and how those things will affect us and our animal companions - especially those who live outside.  Fear is one perspective to come from about anything.  However, there is a different perspective that I use and both feels better to me and creates a world I find pleasurable.

    That perspective is that every experience we have in the physical world is in alignment with our predominant vibrational rate.  That means are you in fear about something - that sends out a negative vibrational rate into the Universe?  Or, are you knowing that at your core and everybody else's is well-being?  When you come into alignment with this perspective, your vibrational rate moves to one that feels good to you and sends out a positive vibrational rate into the Universe. 

    This may all sound pretty airy-fairy.  However, let me assure you that there is one primary law in the Universe - the Law of Attraction.  What this law says is that which is like unto itself is drawn.  What that means is if you are putting out negative vibrational rates, you will draw to you things that you will feel as negative.  And, if you are putting out positive vibrational rates, you will draw to you things that you will feel good with.  And, this works every time without fail, absolutely.  It doesn't matter what topic is being discussed.  It is always true.  That is why some people can go down the very same street as someone else and one has a terrible experience and one has a wonderful one.  It's why many people can experience the same event and provide many different views of that experience. 

    What does all this have to do with radiation from Japan?  Everything!  If there is fear about that coming into your life or that of your animal companions, there is a much better possibility of having a negative experience in relationship to the radiation.  If there is a calm knowing that your core and the core of your animal companions is well-being and nothing physical can change that, then your experience and theirs will be one in which there is no affect on the body in any way.  And, yes, you can influence the perspective and, therefore, the experience of your animal companions. 

    Even if you don't believe any of this, try it!  Try it and see how much it works.  Then you can believe it.  And, once you have a belief about anything, the next thing that happens is that you move into knowing of it and then it absolutely must be so in your experience.

    Love to you and yours,

    Joy

  5. Well, it's been a rather wet month, to say the least.  There have been great times with sun also, just much more rain.  It seems very common for people to push against things like a great number of rainy days.  Energetically, we tend to steel up ourselves, maybe so we won't get wet in our heads.  We walk with our heads down against the wind or rain, go out as little as we think we can get away with, and complain quite a bit about the weather.  While what I'm about to say is not true of all animals, it is true of most of them.  They don't care about the weather.  They don't sit there and complain about it or even go out less - unless we won't let them outside.  Just yesterday in the literally pouring down rain, I watched my horses playing.  Were they getting soaked (no raincoats or umbrellas)?  Yes!  Was the wind blowing quite well?  Yes!  Did they let that stop them from having a good time out in all that rain and wind?  No! 

    The same thing is true for Mercury, my boy cat.  I know that most people think cats have certain things they do and don't do.  And, I can tell you, that Mercury doesn't follow any of those perceived "norms."  He loves to go out in 25 degree weather with snow on the ground.  He loves to ride in the car, comes when called, stays.  And goes outside for extended periods of time when it is raining like crazy.  He even has to be dried off when he comes in because he is so wet. 

    And as for Amira and Logan, they love any weather.  They love long walks in every weather.  They even love to lay out in the rain no matter how hard it is raining.  And the wind is one of their favorite friends.  The harder it blows, the more smells it brings to their wonderful noses from farther and farther away. 

    Watching them is a great lesson in allowing things to be exactly the way they are and having fun any way.  There's no bracing against the rain or wind.  There's no walking with their heads down, pulling their rain coats closer against them.  They are out there in all their glory racing with the wind, reveling in the wetness and the resultant mud.  And, they seem to have 2 modes of being with that wetness and mud.  They roll in the very wet grass and come up totally soaked.  At other times, they roll in the very dirty mud and come up covered in mud which seems equally wonderful to them.  They love each moment for what it holds for them and revel in it just as it is.  After all, there may not be another moment quite like the present one so might as well get everything out of it that you can. 

    It's so wonderful to watch them and be reminded that each moment is precious and special in it's own right just as it is.  No need to change anything.  Just love it for what it is.  That's especially true here in the Northwest where people say if you don't like the weather, wait 5 minutes and it will change.  That 5 minute rule isn't apparently working right now.  It seems maybe more like 5 weeks.  But you get the point.

    Anything you'd like to share?

    Love,
    Joy

  6. In this picture, Amira is the dog with her head on my shoulder and Logan is the big boy by my side.  Do you ever watch your kids, dog or otherwise, offer you behaviors unsolicited?  I think that is one of the greatest things they do.  My dogs also do this when people are here to show off what they can do.  It always ends up with the people thinking they are adorable.  There are those behaviors you have taught them that they keep offering when they feel like it.  And there are those behaviors that you have never taught them at all and they make them up and offer them just to please you. 

    I had one of these experiences this morning.  Each morning, I feed the horses, dogs and cats and then eat my breakfast.  Everything I eat, the dogs, and cats if they want what I am eating, get 2 bites (sometimes more) of what I'm eating.  Quite often I'll have Amira and Logan back up because they like their heads on the plate - not quite the thing I prefer especially when there is this steady stream of saliva running out of their mouths - I prefer my food the way it was intended instead of soggy with dog drool.  I have also taught them to sit until food is offered, lay down for food, and look at me in the eyes.  They eat food off spoons and forks.  This morning while I was eating my bagel, Amira laid down - a good thing - with her head (and, therefore, her dripping-saliva mouth) too close to my previously dry pant leg - a not so good thing.  When I looked at her to back up, instead of standing up, or even sitting up to move back (she also goes backward while sitting), she crawled backward.  This made me laugh, especially because she does not crawl forward.  It has been one of those skills she has yet to learn.  However, she obviously taught herself to crawl backward - a wonderful talent to possess and offer it to have your Mom laugh.

    In my opinion, this is a wonderful side effect of teaching them to think for themselves instead of just respond to what you say.  Offering behaviors as they see fit and, expecially making up new ones, speaks volumes about their mental state.

    I'd love to hear about any heartwarming talents your animal kids have and offer to you.

    Love,

    Joy

  7. I've been apparently focusing quite a bit on my horses lately.  Their latest and greatest thing is their playing. 

    I'm used to Amira and Logan playing.  They do it all the time.  And, I love watching them as well.  It is always heart warming to see them having so much fun.  Or when they just run around and around for the sake of running and because they feel so happy they have to do something with all that energy.  And, the horses are different because up until now they have not played with toys.

    For Valentine's Day I bought them a barrel - that's right, a barrel.  You know, the white, plastic empty kind that horses play with (or at least some horses play with).  Up until recently mine only played with each other.  And, since Diego started playing with sticks, they have added balls so I thought the barrel might stand a chance of being played with - enter the barrel on Valentine's Day.  Valentine's Day here was pretty intense weather - high winds and lots of rain - so there was not even any real notice of the barrel as I rolled it into their pasture.  However, at 1:30 am that night, Amira, who was sleeping by my side, started growling and Logan went on alert.  As I listened, I heard the very distinctive sound of a horse kicking the barrel.  When I bought it, I didn't realize how loud that sound could be.  I ended up going out to the pasture (about 50 feet off the back of the house) and rolling the barrel out of the pasture for the night - a practice I have followed each night since.  Then in the morning I roll it back in.  We do have neighbors here and I realize that horses can make loud sounds - even things like them thundering around the pastures in the middle of the night can be profound.  So they now have access to the barrel during the day only. 

    Each morning since the barrel arrived, I have been in the kitchen preparing breakfast for all the inside kids (Amira, Logan, Mercury, Venus and myself) and watching a wonderful show.  (I should probably tell you that the kitchen is on the back of the house so I see the horses.)  Each morning the show starts about when I start breakfast for those of us who live inside the house.  All four horses have found the barrel too hard to resist so I watch all four of them playing with it.  This is the first toy Ala and Dream Weaver have ever played with.  So, quite naturally, I am fascinated watching all four of them take turns pushing the barrel, kicking it, picking it up by the lip, licking it, and, generally, just loving having it with them.  It so warms my heart I could stand there for hours watching.  And, I actually have stood looking out the window for somewhat over an hour and a half - their longest time of continuous play.  A simple thing, I know.  And just so profound I don't have words for it.

    Until next time, have fun playing with or watching your animal kids playing.   It's a great way to raise your vibration.

    Love,

    Joy

  8. My horses are kept in a herd.  They are turned out with access to their pasture (about 3 acres) and their barn all day and night every day.  Horses are naturally herd animals and mostly mentally and emotionally, if not physically, "suffer" when kept by themselves in a very small box.  Some day we will realize how to keep them more naturally so they will be happier and more fulfilled.  But, that is a story for another blog.

    I recently have been having especially wonderful times watching my horses.  This story started some time ago with Diego, gray and youngest of the four, and Logan, my boy Golden Retriever.  Diego loves to play and very quickly becomes a pester to the other three horses.  In came Amira and Logan.  They love to play with sticks, balls and a variety of other things.  Over a period of time, Amira and Logan taught Diego how to play with sticks - by Diego watching them and by Logan taking a stick to Diego to get him to play like Amira does.  Initially, Diego had no idea what in the world this dog was doing trying to poke him with this stick.  Eventually with much persistence from Logan, Diego picked up a stick and started to play.  Since that time, Diego has taken it upon himself to be the teacher of playing.  The first horse Diego took under his hoof, so to speak, was Tango, all the way to your right in the picture, the newest.  For a long time, Diego and Ala, the Chestnut with white blaze, played often as horses do - bucking, kicking, running, etc.

    Diego decided Tango needed to learn how to play with the stick and started picking one up and taking it to Tango to play like the dogs do.  Tango, of course, felt much the same as Diego did in the beginning - "Hey!  You're hitting me with the stick!  I don't like it!  Stop!"  Diego explained he was teaching a game like the dogs play.  And, he was very diligent!  Eventually, Tango started nosing the stick and the rest, as they say, is history.  Now they both play with the stick.  Today, I watched Tango pick up the stick first and invite Diego to play.  This is the first time he has been the inviter.  It so does my heart good to see how they are growing.  It shows me that persistence and love can accomplish anything.

    The second horse Diego decided to show how to play was Dream.  Dream is the only mare and I have often seen the three boys playing horse games with Dream watching.  She would periodically sort of start to play and always stopped.  Diego has again been persistent enough to have her now join in their horse games.  She and Ala aren't stick players, yet.

    The other game Diego has learned and is teaching is playing with the Jolly Ball (a ball that is harder and has a handle on it for them to pick it up).  He grew tired of playing with it himself, so he has taught Tango how to play with it. 

    Another thing I recently did is to start providing hay free choice.  I always fed them 5-6 times a day so they mostly had hay all day but there were periods when they ran out until I went out to put more out.  Now, they have hay all day and all night.  So, now I get to be in my kitchen or family room and watch the horses contentedly munching their hay, playing horse games or with the stick or ball, or lying down sleeping.  This is such a wonderful picture!  It fills my heart every time I see it.

    If you have a wonderful heart story, please share it.

    Love,

    Joy